Sexting: The Good, The Bad and The Fetish
A brief guide to different aspects of sexting and tips for those who want to dip their toes into it.
Some people just sext for sexual gratification, some do it to communicate the sexual desires which they might be too shy to express otherwise. For short term hook-ups, sexting may appear to be an immediate method to gratify your need and desire — or if nothing else, an attempt to do so.
Highlights
- Weighing the pros and cons of Sexting
- Debating the bigger picture
- Top Tips for Sexting
When does sexting occur?
In reality, sexting mostly happens in a serious relationship. Exploration of this idea proposes that individuals frequently participate in sexting after being coerced by romantic partners or to avoid an argument with their romantic partner. So perhaps anxiety and concern about what your romantic partner thinks about you promote behaviours like sexting.
Is it a distraction
Furthermore, people who tend to be insecure in their attachment and would, therefore, wish to remind their partner of their existence might be more likely to sext.
People who are comfortable with their partner often end up expecting sex and intimacy. In scenarios like these, sometimes when the other person involved is not ready, sexting acts as a way to bridge the gap between real sexual activity and allows them more time.
Is it an essential part of the modern relationship
Not exactly! Have you folks forgotten about long-distance love letters of the past? No doubt modern age technology has ushered in a new era for sexting – added pictures, videos, and video chat to the mix makes it a real-time experience. Platforms like Snapchat seemed to have been built entirely on the premise of enabling its users to sext in a relatively safe environment.
The dark side
Yes, sexting brings along with it a number of issues — leaking of photos/videos, revenge porn, and whatnot. However, that is a discussion for another day.
Modern technology, social media, and popular culture has almost brought about this revolution where sexting in a relationship or otherwise is normalized and not looked down upon anymore.
Not to forget, sexting can be liberating for a lot of people. Cultural and religious orthodox notions equate such promiscuous behaviour as immoral, to say the least. For such individuals, sexting is sort of breaking free from that repression and embracing their sexual identity.
In short, each individual has their own set of reasons for indulging in sexting, and the same goes for those who don’t indulge in it.
People who are comfortable with their partner often end up expecting sex and intimacy. In scenarios like these, sometimes when the other person involved is not ready, sexting acts as a way to bridge the gap between real sexual activity and allows them more time.
The fun part
How to make your sexting game better!
- Get to know the person — Their turn-ons and turn-offs, this is in case of a new acquaintance. Sexting and physical intimacy are two sides of the same coin–they share the same ground rules. Every individual is different and one single approach will not work on them all. Some may prefer cheesy pickup lines whereas others may need something more serious to get things going.
- Don’t be pushy — Nothing is worse than an individual who tries to push you into sexting. It reeks of desperation and lacks meaning or purpose. It is akin to guys hitting on girls in a bar, without putting much of an effort either. The rules for sexting are the same as in real life – it has to be a natural conclusion to your conversation. You can not force it upon your partner.
- For those who prefer adventurous stuff, or are at least curious about it, sexting kinky stuff or role-playing about it, is a great way to test the waters and learn about the likes/dislikes of your partner and even see how much you are into the whole alternative lifestyle thing.
These are just some of the ways in which you can improve your game. Sexting is one of the ways in which gratification can be achieved during this lockdown era.
It is also a good means to maintain the heat in long-distance relationships. Do you think you have some tips to share on the same? Let us know in the comments box below!
Since the article is not really passing a value judgement on whether the activity is good/bad, I think it’s a better idea to replace ‘gift/curse’ simply with ‘practise’. What do you think?
