When talking about BDSM most people think of whips, chains, dog collars, mayhem, verbal abuse, etc., which seems to have become the stereotype of what bdsm is all about, and the fact that people aren't very supportive of the activity has led to it becoming synonymous with kinky and weird in everyone's mind. It has to be said that there are indeed some creepy practices in BDSM, and even though only a very small percentage of people do that, it still affects the public's perception of the activity.
The truth is that BDSM is suitable for any average person, but I'm talking about light bdsm today. it's a much more accessible form that doesn't involve horror, hurt and confusion. I think it can be one of the effective means for people to enhance intimacy and sexual pleasure in the bedroom. This guide will introduce you to activity tutorials on the topic of light BDSM to help you get up to speed with the rules of the game quickly.
Definition of mild BDSM
Light BDSM contains all the elements of traditional BDSM, but it is much less intense. If bondage in bdsm is tightly bound using rough nylon rope, in light bdsm it is bound in a comfortable way using smooth silk scarves. All the elements that bring you excitement and pleasure are in there, but it's not as extreme as full-blown BDSM, again giving you an erotic experience while deepening your human intimacy with your partner.
It is important to note that this activity should be done with full communication and mutual consent of the couple. While light bdsm is a safe way to explore kinky desires, it can still be harmful and risky when props are not used properly, so please take your time. If you're ready, then let's get started!
A few bondage props for beginners
Props are an integral part of this game, and if you're a beginner, the ones below will suit you. But if you want to add some more fun, add some other sex toys like dildos or vibrators.
Manacles
Handcuffs are the classic prop used by a dominant to bind a submissive, they enhance the submissive's sense of vulnerability and helplessness, and fuel the dominant's desire to dominate, and are a manifestation of the power dynamics between the dominant and the submissive. Or you can use a belt, scarf or rope instead. This means of bondage intensifies the sensual experience and injects an element of anticipation into the sexual encounter.
Blinkers (for a horse etc)
When a person's vision is lost his other senses are heightened, and blindfolds utilize this property. When you blindfold your eyes you can eliminate more external distractions and focus on the sensations of your body, which will make the experience more intense. Additionally this loss of vision will increase your sense of anticipation and suspense dramatically, making you more excited.
Gag
A gag is used to restrain your speech function, and when you can't clear your expression, the feeling of helplessness and vulnerability increases, much like handcuffs. It also prevents you from accidentally making sounds that can ruin the scene.
Whips
The element of pain is also integral to bdsm and the whip is designed to create this element. For the submissive the pain created by being whipped translates into a sense of pleasure, while for the dominant wielding the whip creates a sense of power and control. The interplay of the two creates a unique scenario for humiliating or demeaning the submissive. Of course in the mild state, the intensity of control becomes the key point.
5 Light BDSM Ideas
If you're stumped for ideas for mild BDSM, here are 10 ideas you can try with your partner tonight:
Light restraints with handcuffs or other restraints
The key to light bondage is not to tie too tightly, whichever is comfortable for the submissive. You can tie the submissive's hands behind his back, restricting his movement and preventing him from touching you or himself. This creates sexual tension and a greater sense of anticipation for the submissive, and satisfies the dominant's desire for power over him.
Feathers and tickling
This is a classic means of conditioning through the use of feathers to lightly touch the skin of the submissive, or bonded person. When you are bound, the feeling of powerlessness as you stimulate and try to resist but are restrained will excite the dominant, while the teasing will also stimulate the bound person's desires.
Spank sb's buttocks while blindfolded
It's a sensory deprivation game, when you're blindfolded, vision is taken away and you don't know when the whip is going to land on your ass. This creates a sense of unknown and anticipation and even tension. Also this sensory deprivation enhances the sensitivity of your body and makes your partner more sensitive to your touch.
Role-playing (as a game of chess)
This is an ideal way to explore your sexual fetishes and fantasies. Explore the interaction between the warden and the inmate, and this is where your handcuffs come in handy. This approach is also the best way for you and your partner to build trust and communication. Regardless of who dominates the script, you can both take your own pleasure from it.
Bedtime dirty talk
Pleasure can also be derived from words, especially some words that break the moral code, or what we call dirty words. From verbal degradation use of insulting words to communicate to control and dominate the other party. For example: calling each other a slutty bitch or a male dog in heat, this kind of words that are difficult to say in normal times have a very strong role in arousing desire during sex. If you don't know how to do this kind of dirty talk in bed, you can refer to our previous article: "Explore the art of dirty talk in bed to enhance your sexual experience".
Tips for Light BDSM
Mild BDSM as a form of exhilarating sexual play needs some attention while adding spice to your sex life:
- It is important to communicate with your partner before you begin, to clarify your boundaries and expectations, and to avoid certain activities that can hurt you both physically and emotionally.
- Safety words must be created so that when you feel uncomfortable you can end the game with a safety word
- Be safe and know your limits
- Respect and courtesy are important, don't insult and offend your partner in the name of the game, it will hurt your relationship.
- Learn to be flexible, there are no set rules for BDSM play, you can use your imagination.
- Pay attention to your partner's reactions and please be gentle and not too rough.
- After the game, aftercare is important; give each other a hug or talk about how you feel.
